THE BALANCING ACT

Let’s talk about that weird pressure to always be doing something. You know the feeling—when you sit down for five minutes and your brain immediately starts whispering, “You should be working right now.” We live in a world that loves productivity. We celebrate hustle, busy schedules, and crossing things off a to-do list. And honestly? Accomplishing stuff does feel good so it is incredibly reinforcing to stick with this routine. There’s something really satisfying about getting things done, making progress, and hitting goals. It gives us a sense of control, and sometimes even reminds us that we’re capable—especially when we’re feeling a little off. But here’s where it gets tricky: when we start tying our self-worth to how productive we are.

Why Accomplishment Matters (But It’s Not Everything...)

I won’t lie—there are days when checking off tasks is what keeps me grounded. There’s value in feeling like you’ve moved forward, even just a little. For people dealing with anxiety, depression, or just general overwhelm, small wins can feel like lifelines.

Accomplishment gives structure. It helps us feel useful. It can even help quiet some of that mental noise. But if we’re not careful, it becomes an opportunity for burnout.

The Guilt of Doing Nothing

Here’s something I am still learning, rest isn’t something you earn by being productive. Rest is just… necessary. If you have worked with me and struggle with this too, you have most likely heard me say, “Doing nothing is doing something!” Stillness feels uncomfortable at first, especially if you’re used to constantly doing something. . It almost feels like you’re doing something wrong. But taking time to pause—like really pause, without a phone in your hand or a podcast in your ear—isn’t lazy. It’s how your brain and body reset. 

Whether it’s sitting in silence for five minutes, going for a walk with no destination, or just staring out the window—being still gives your mind space to catch up with your life-rest & digest.

Finding That Middle Ground

So how do we achieve this balancing act of needing to feel productive with the need to breathe? There’s no perfect fit, but here are a few things you may want to consider:

Start small – One or two meaningful tasks are better than a packed list you never finish.

Rest without guilt – Seriously, put “do nothing” on your to-do list if it helps. I know it sounds weird but seeing it as a reminder can help our brain put it into play.

Pay attention to YOUR WHY – Are you doing something because it matters to you?

Redefine what progress looks like – Sometimes progress is a nap, a walk, or saying no—that’s a big one!

At the end of the day, being productive isn’t bad—and neither is doing nothing. You’re allowed to want both. You can make things happen and still take care of yourself. Start giving ourselves permission to just be still.

With care,

Julie